Boy meets girl. Girl meets boy. Together, the two decide that they're attracted to one another. They go on dates, communicate via texts and calls on a daily basis, and share some of their most deepest secrets. After some time, one or the other decides that they don't want the either to date or sleep… Continue reading Reclaim Your Time: Death to the Situationship
This post has been a long time coming, as I've dealt with my own "case of the ex" a few times now. An inconvenient truth in the majority of relationships is that you won't be the first, second, or even third person who has captured the heart of your mate. When you agree to become… Continue reading Kill It With Fire: The Case of the Ex
Is keeping things hush-hush a sign of a guy stringing you along?
"Why do women let themselves be taken advantage of?" he asked, as he took another swig of beer. My friend was pissed. He'd been dating a girl who was beautiful, smart, ambitious, and kind. And she was stuck on a guy who "wasn't ready for a relationship". I sympathized with him because I, too, have been… Continue reading “I’m Not Ready” and Other Lies Men Tell
You probably read the title of this post and immediately thought "Oh [bleep], Valentine's Day is 6 weeks away?!" Time flies in a "swipe left" culture. As you may or may not know, I've written about the joys of being single on Valentine's Day and I'm a huge proponent of cherishing your own company. But this… Continue reading #SecureTheBae : Your 6-week guide to boo loving on Valentine’s Day
SPOILER ALERT: If you haven't seen the latest episode of Insecure that aired on 11/20/16, please stop reading. This entry is littered with spoilers.If you're a fan of Issa Rae's new hit show "Insecure" you'll recognize the title of this blog as the most pivotal point in the debut series to date.After years of harboring… Continue reading “Did You F-k Him?” That time I was almost Issa
"Been a long time but I'm back with the jumpoff..." So I got a lot of feedback on my last blog and I gotta tell ya, I couldn't be more thrilled. The women were appreciative (well most were) and some of the menfolk...well...they'll live. Remember what I said: hell hath no fury like a misogynistic man… Continue reading So You Want to Maintain a Roster?
You've thought about dating multiple guys. The idea always intrigued you. "How does she do it?" you wonder, as you watch this woman effortlessly handle her professional and dating life with a fluidity you've only seen in movies with plot holes. Her weeks are filled with everything from brunch dates on the Hudson to court-side tickets… Continue reading So You Want a Roster?
When was the last time someone called you crazy? And I'm talking to the women here. Think about it. I'm willing to bet you didn't have to think that long. I'm also willing to bet it was by a man. Perhaps a man you are/were dating. Either way, I decided a while ago that I'm… Continue reading I’d Rather Be Crazy
"You need to just get out there and love like you've never been hurt," I said. I was having one of my famous pep talks with a friend who had sworn off dating. My friend, who I had known for years, furrowed her brow. "That's not what you do, so why should I?" I paused.… Continue reading Love Like You’ve Been Hurt