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Death to “Talking”

I can't believe in the year of our Lord, 2018, that I have to even write this. It pains me to even bring it up but since we're in the midst of the hell that is called "cuffing season," I have to look out for my sisters. It has come to my attention that men… Continue reading Death to “Talking”

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Sometimes, you do it to yourself

Froth: worthless or insubstantial talk, ideas, or activities In light of today's daily prompt and recent celebrity gossip, I've decided to tell the straight-shot-no-chaser version of the scandal that is Tristan Thompson and Khloe Kardashian. Some may consider celebrity gossip mindless fodder, or froth, but I often see and identify the meaning within these types… Continue reading Sometimes, you do it to yourself

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7 Tips to Ruin your Livelihood in Love and Relationships

The 1950s. A decade filled with A-line skirts, the dawn of rock 'n roll, and good ol' American segregation. Mad Men glamorized this era, where the men were powerful and their doting housewives drowned in depressants to keep afloat- with not one strand of hair out of place. 'Twas a simpler time, indeed. When I… Continue reading 7 Tips to Ruin your Livelihood in Love and Relationships

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Y’all Still Together?: When Friends Don’t like Your Man

My best friend has a habit of holding on to perceived offenses, and then disclosing those feelings at random times. In the 22 years of our friendship, I've pretty much mastered the art of knowing how to navigate her Capricorn-ness. So it came as a surprise when she told me a few years ago that… Continue reading Y’all Still Together?: When Friends Don’t like Your Man

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“I’m Not Ready” and Other Lies Men Tell

"Why do women let themselves be taken advantage of?" he asked, as he took another swig of beer. My friend was pissed. He'd been dating a girl who was beautiful, smart, ambitious, and kind.  And she was stuck on a guy who "wasn't ready for a relationship". I sympathized with him because I, too, have been… Continue reading “I’m Not Ready” and Other Lies Men Tell

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#SecureTheBae : Your 6-week guide to boo loving on Valentine’s Day

You probably read the title of this post and immediately thought "Oh [bleep], Valentine's Day is 6 weeks away?!" Time flies in a "swipe left" culture. As you may or may not know, I've written about the joys of being single on Valentine's Day and I'm a huge proponent of cherishing your own company. But this… Continue reading #SecureTheBae : Your 6-week guide to boo loving on Valentine’s Day

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“Did You F-k Him?” That time I was almost Issa

SPOILER ALERT: If you haven't seen the latest episode of Insecure that aired on 11/20/16, please stop reading. This entry is littered with spoilers.If you're a fan of Issa Rae's new hit show "Insecure" you'll recognize the title of this blog as the most pivotal point in the debut series to date.After years of harboring… Continue reading “Did You F-k Him?” That time I was almost Issa