break ups, dating, friendships, relationships

Y’all Still Together?: When Friends Don’t like Your Man

My best friend has a habit of holding on to perceived offenses, and then disclosing those feelings at random times. In the 22 years of our friendship, I've pretty much mastered the art of knowing how to navigate her Capricorn-ness. So it came as a surprise when she told me a few years ago that… Continue reading Y’all Still Together?: When Friends Don’t like Your Man

dating, love, relationships

“I’m Not Ready” and Other Lies Men Tell

"Why do women let themselves be taken advantage of?" he asked, as he took another swig of beer. My friend was pissed. He'd been dating a girl who was beautiful, smart, ambitious, and kind.  And she was stuck on a guy who "wasn't ready for a relationship". I sympathized with him because I, too, have been… Continue reading “I’m Not Ready” and Other Lies Men Tell

dating, love, relationships, sex, valentine's day

#SecureTheBae : Your 6-week guide to boo loving on Valentine’s Day

You probably read the title of this post and immediately thought "Oh [bleep], Valentine's Day is 6 weeks away?!" Time flies in a "swipe left" culture. As you may or may not know, I've written about the joys of being single on Valentine's Day and I'm a huge proponent of cherishing your own company. But this… Continue reading #SecureTheBae : Your 6-week guide to boo loving on Valentine’s Day

dating, feminism, love, relationships

So You Want a Roster?

You've thought about dating multiple guys. The idea always intrigued you.  "How does she do it?" you wonder, as you watch this woman effortlessly handle her professional and dating life with a fluidity you've only seen in movies with plot holes. Her weeks are filled with everything from brunch dates on the Hudson to court-side tickets… Continue reading So You Want a Roster?